When I found out I was pregnant with twins, I knew I would be delivering at Pennsylvania Hospital. From where I am located, Pennsylvania Hospital is not right down the street. It was risky knowing that it could take me anywhere from 20 minutes to an hour or more to get to the hospital depending on the day. So many people tried talking me out of delivering across the bridge, but how could I when I already had such a good relationship with my doctor?
Being pregnant with twins is something not many people can relate to. Yeah, there are members of my family who have twins, but all of them are over the age of 10 years old. I know I will always be able to go to members of my family and be able to ask for advice, but my doctor Lauren was able to help me through my pregnancy since she just delivered her twin boys almost 2 years ago. Having Lauren in my life during my pregnancy was a blessing from God. She made doctor appointments enjoyable because I felt like I was able to catch up with a friend who had something in common with me. I never felt stupid for asking questions that probably had very simple answers. She also never treated me different for only being 23 years old and never pointed it out as if it were a bad thing. Not only was she there for me medically, but she helped me adjust to the new idea of becoming a mom of twins. She told me what to buy and what not to buy, gave me wise words of wisdom when I was having one of those days and when I had doubts and was afraid of miscarrying, she comforted me rather than telling me “oh stop you’re fine” like everyone else did. Every doctors visit, and I mean EVERY one, she told me that she was proud of me for doing so good. I never in my life had a doctor that was so personal with me and really helped guide me through this new journey. Heading into my doctors appointment I usually had something heavy on my heart, and hearing her say “it will all be okay” was so comforting. Entering new mommy land especially with twins on the first try, was terrifying to me. I can truly say that Lauren was a pivotal reason for having a good, healthy pregnancy. This is why I couldn’t go elsewhere to deliver my babies, Lauren was the right OB for me. I would not be comfortable anywhere else.
Looking more closely at the big picture, your doctor is the very first person to place their hands upon your child. In my case, children. Lauren saw my entire journey unfold and was able to hold my babies before I even could. If I could pick anyone in the world (besides my husband of course) to bring my babies into the world safely, it would be Lauren. I prayed to God every night that she would be the one delivering them and bringing them into the world, and sure enough, he answered my prayers and on Monday March 18, 2019, she did just that. I’ll never forget looking at her as she held my babies, fresh out of the womb, as she wished them a happy birthday. How beautiful is that? I’m so blessed that my delivery was even more special because she was a part of it. I will never forget that moment and day for the rest of my life.
After delivery, I had some complications that left me in the hospital longer than I intended to be there. Even after I came home from the hospital, the complications seemed to stay with me, and I ended up landing myself back in Pennsylvania Hospital. Lauren visited me in my room, and ensured that whatever it was I had, got taken care of. She knew more than anyone else, how important it was to be home with my babies and she made it happen. I can say now, almost 3 months later, that she didn’t treat me like I was just another one of her patients, but rather, a member of her family. Even today, Lauren shows interest in my sweet babies and will check in to see how I am doing. I love her for that!
One of the biggest pieces of advice I can give to pregnant women, not just women pregnant with twins, is to find an OB that cares and treats you like a member of their family. If you aren’t happy with your care, speak up. Never be afraid to ask questions and explain your concerns. If you feel as though you aren’t being heard, find another doctor like Lauren who will hear you. Bringing a baby into this world is a precious gift, one that many women do not get the pleasure of experiencing, so find a doctor who will preciously treat you and your unborn child with the best possible care. Your OB should do more than just give you a sonogram picture and play the babies heartbeat. Your OB should be one who listens and cares for you and your child as if they are their own. If I had to do it all over again, I would not think twice. Know your worth, and find someone who will treat you with the utmost care.
“Children are a gift from the Lord; they are a reward from him.” Psalm 127:3
I hope you get the chance to read this. I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for all you have done. Your words of wisdom and constant positivity helped me through my pregnancy and beyond. I am so thankful you were a pivotal role when bringing my babies into the world. Thank you for all you did for me, my children, and all of the pregnant mothers you care for in the future. I know I was so lucky to have had a doctor like you, I really don’t think I could have done it without you.